That Cheating Thing

I just finished watching a movie where the female in a marriage remained loyal to her husband but all throughout their marriage the husband cheated on his wife by having numerous affairs. Every time I watch or hear of someone cheating on their spouse or partner it saddens me. Why does it sadden me?

It saddens me because a person involved in a relationship who is committed and giving their love has been betrayed by the one they love. This saddens me.

The lies. The deceit. The betrayal. The hurt. The confusion. Why does a person cheat going through all the hoops of infidelity only to not escape discovery. Then they decide to tell their spouse or partner out of guilt and shame to further put salt on the wound of the person they said they cared for and loved.

Why not just be an adult and leave the marriage or relationship before cheating. Even better, why not have a conversation before the cheating with your spouse or partner to work through issues or to part ways.

I’m not saying the person who cheats is a bad person. I’m not saying that they should be judged by me. What I am judging is the behavior that is so hurtful toward someone that has been told that they love them and the person who does not see marriage as a sacred union.

If you have any thoughts, don’t hold back share them. Oh and no I have not been cheated on in many years but I do know what that feels like.

Exposed Loving💙, 1.1.18

Sensuality of the Senses

What if a person treated touch as a precious action only to be indulged when the language of “in love” is spoken, heard and received.

What if looking into someone’s eyes past the point of a friendly gesture would be allowed only to get the attention of someone you want to know much deeper than surface, much longer than a lifetime.

What if tasting was seen as a sacred feast only to be had with the one who has captured your heart for eternity.

What if hearing the voice of the one you love was like a serenade, an offering given to you reminding you of a warm summer night experiencing the cool sprinkling of a beautiful fountain.

What if the fragrance of someone caught your attention devastating your senses with the fresh scent of baked cookies,

bacon, grits and eggs cooked to perfection; they smell like home.

Why not save the sensuality of the senses for the one who knows more about you than those who were the closest to you, that person makes you smile from your eyes to your cheeks and holds you through every hard time and every exuberant celebration.

Exposed Loving 💙 8.7.17